October 26, 2015
- Dear Jenny
My best friend is so upset and she won’t talk to me… What is the best way to say I’m sorry?
Saying sorry isn’t easy! The most important thing about an apology is sincerity. Don’t say you’re sorry if you don’t really mean it. When you apologize, you need to do so because you feel genuinely sorry!
You can start by asking your friend some questions about why she feels the way she does and what would make her feel better. Be sure to listen to her response, and consider how your behavior affected her. Then, let your friend know you’re not going to let it happen again. Explain to her what you might do differently to avoid doing the same thing in the future. It takes courage to step up and admit what you did was wrong.
Hopefully, your best friend will accept your apology. Sometimes a heartfelt “I’m sorry” fixes everything right away. But don’t be discouraged or sad if it doesn’t happen instantly. Sometimes an apology might not be enough to make everything all better again. Some people are quick to forgive; others may have to think about what you said and need time to get over hurt feelings and sadness. Move forward and take the time to forgive yourself too! Mending the situation is way more important then replaying it in your head.
Keep in mind that we can always learn from our mistakes!
I hope that helped!